Coerced Surrenders

Many natural mothers were coerced and forced to surrender their babies for adoption purposes.  No mother gives up a child she loves and wants unless there is coercion. she feels she has no other option, she has been defrauded by people telling her that adoption is something it is not, or she has not been allowed to recover from the birth (at least 6 weeks) before making a decision or being influenced by prospective adoptive parents.  These mothers carry their love for their lost children for years and even decades until they can reunite.

“Your mother loved you and wanted to keep you. She never wanted to lose you to adoption” – the first words of a search angel to an adoptee at first contact.

Between 69% and 98% of adoptions involve coercion being applied to the mother, and this coercion can be direct or indirect, overt or covert.    Is it any wonder that many of these mothers want to adopt their children back?   And many adopted persons find a mother they love as family, and want to restore their original family connections again?


“Adoption is a violent act, a political act of aggression towards a woman who has supposedly offended the sexual mores by committing the unforgivable act of not suppressing her sexuality, and therefore not keeping it for trading purposes through traditional marriage. The crime is a grave one, for she threatens the very fabric of our society. The penalty is severe. She is stripped of her child by a variety of subtle and not so subtle manoeuvres and then brutally abandoned.” – Joss Shawyer, Death by Adoption, Cicada Press (1979)