The truth of adoption needs to be told and retold again because
what is happening is an injuring and a reinjuring of exiled mothers
and the children they lost to adoption whether the loss occurs
in America or elsewhere.
Since the mid 1940s through the 80s, babies were removed en-mass
from their natural mothers. This was done against our wishes.
Can you imagine what it feels like to us to have had our babies
taken from us simply because we didn't fit the accepted profile
of the rest of society?? Because we were young. But youth is not
a crime. And because we didn't have a job. But being jobless is
not a crime. Yet we were treated like criminals.
If you could remove everything you know about adoption from your
mind and think only about these facts, you might more fully understand
the horror of social workers and adoption agencies, along with
the blessing of society, removing your own baby from you. How
would that experience make you feel?
I always ask people who accept that there is nothing unusual about
the history of this event, "Which one of your kids would
you chose to be removed from you?" It usually leaves them
speechless.
Resourceless mothers are not responsible for the pain, confusion
and the damage done to children they were pressured to surrender.
Social workers are, adoption agencies are, maternity facilities
are, churches are, our governments are, and society is. Not us.
Yet we are the ones repeatedly punished for this supposed crime.
We are the ones who are rejected by our kids when we find them
or when they find us. We are the ones blamed.
Why is this? Because people do not understand, or even want to
understand, that mothers are not the ones who caused the surrender
of their children. This is a classic case of the victims being
blamed for the crime. Our children were injured and victimized,
too. So we have to live with that reality with no one willing
to listen or accept The Truth.
This is a crime. It is a crime against mothers and against their
children, regardless of the countries in which we live. This is
what's at the heart of adoption. The fact that mothers are too
young and unprotected at the time to comprehend that their rights
are ignored and abused--all of their rights--civil, human and
legal. Totally ignored and disregarded. During the "baby
scoop era" societies could easily get away with it. Today
it still occurs on a large scale.
Mothers who have awakened from this trauma find that social workers
and other pro-adoptionists made, and still make, a great deal
of money from our vulnerabilities and our suffering. They are
counting on the fact that no one will listen to us or believe
us. Even the media shuns our claims, stories, and articles. No
one wants to face this hideous crime. The ramifications are too
huge. It would turn America upside down to admit The Truth. But
that doesn't stop us from speaking out. It is too important --
one day very soon it could happen all over again. As with the
Jewish Holocaust, unprotected mothers have had their own domestic
Holocaust.
Removing babies from mothers, whether from the United States,
Asia or elsewhere, is the mass elimination of the true heritage
of those children and the amputation from a mother of the most
revered and sacred relationship known to humankind.
Adoption remains the perfect crime.
Karen Wilson Buterbaugh
Baby Scoop Era Research Initiative
www.originscanada.org
www.moxiemag.com/moxie/articles/perspectives2.html
www.eclectica.org/v6n1/buterbaugh.html
www.geocities.com/karenwb2001
http://geocities.com/moreopenrecords/
AllWebTemplate.com